November 1st, 2018
Fay Wolf Coins “Before and Better”
In the world of Professional Organizing, we tend to focus on “Before and After.” That perspective changed when I went to the #NAPO2016 conference and participated in my friend, Fay Wolf’s session, “Imperfection Rules!” She shared a term she’s coined
as “Before and Better,” as a more accurate way to view client progress. It fits! She’s brilliant. I’m guilty of it, moving X out of the picture to get the best “after” shot. Who are we kidding? We don’t live this way. We don’t live like the magazines want us to think we should live.
We Are Continually Evolving
Like Fay says, these depictions make it “look like we don’t make food or do laundry.” Even with the knowledge I have around Chronic Disorganization and my social work training my goal was to end with beautiful looking spaces. Yes, well, there is no end. These “after” photos aren’t reality. We can’t possibly live in “afters.” And it is a disservice to try to impose this belief on my clients. It’s time for a shift. This is what happens when you attend a conference with your peeps- you get better. Less clutter creates less stress for many of my clients (not all.) It is time to embrace more of the internal transformations, which are more important and can’t be seen.
A good enough/progress picture can be represented in a “better”, not after. Most
of the time when organizing and decluttering, our spaces get worse before they get better. And our lives are continually evolving and changing. Stuff comes in and stuff hopefully goes out, interests change, we shift and we grow. The “after” really is only brief, where the “better” is continually evolving. This Professional Organizer will stop aiming to create a perfect after picture that isn’t lived in. Gone with the “B&A” and on to the “B&B.”
Thank you to Fay Wolf! She can be found at http://www.neworderlove.com/